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Fairytale loveI am really bad at relationships . Well, I’m good at the actual dating part of the bit, but I’m not so good at sticking it out for longer than the second I realize she’s not the one. Dating is fun and healthy and  we all like it  but being in a relationship with  someone  you  can’t  guarantee  a future is  not  that good,  living  skeptical about each other’s togetherness hurts.

I have a difficult time understanding how other people manage to commit to  people they know they aren’t going to share their lives with.

Sure, it’s nice to have someone in your life, but having the wrong person in your life doesn’t add to it — it usually takes from it.

I understand sometimes people lie to themselves or avoid accepting the relationship is hopeless, but most people know exactly what they’re doing and do it anyway.

I don’t have the patience. I don’t like pretending like *we are together forever * I enjoy spending time with with her no doubt but i cant commit to  someone when the truth is I’d rather spend that time with friends, family or with myself alone .

Maybe it’s because I met someone I could have married when I was young that makes me so honest and blunt. Maybe I don’t like wasting my time or anyone else’s time for that matter.

The point is: commiting to  someone you know isn’t right for you is honestly a waste and wrong . Yes, it’s nice to date,  go out , treat her like your princess and  maybe even have sex with the same person and not have to worry about catching anything. It’s nice to have someone to talk to and support you when need be.

Yet, at the end of the day, you’re not going to be happy. You know you’re not going to settle for this person, and it’s eating both of you up as well as the relationship.

You have an ongoing debate inside your head on whether or not you should just call it quits.

The problem is you’re having a good time and don’t yet see a reason to jump ship.

On the other hand, you understand all this time, energy and emotion is going to be invested in someone you already know isn’t going to pay off.

Likewise, you understand that by dating the wrong person, finding the right person is more difficult. But you don’t want to be alone.


You catch yourself checking out and even occasionally flirting with other people, and then feel bad about it.

You aren’t in love with the person you’re dating, but nevertheless you believe you ought to give this person the respect he or she deserves.

You may not be soulmates, but you don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings. At the same time, you can’t risk the chance of not talking to Mr. or Mrs. Right just because you’re currently dating someone else.

So, flirt you shall — followed by guilt and overall unhappiness with yourself and the person you’ve become. Your romantic love story is turning into the premise for a soap opera.


You spend just enough time with this person to keep him or her around, but still keep your distance.

You don’t want to lose this person entirely, but you don’t want to make it too much of a regular thing either — because you don’t like him or her enough.

You begin to take more and more time for yourself and friends, and less and less time with the person you’re seeing. You only want to see this person when you want him or her. Other than that, this person doesn’t really exist to you.


You don’t really care what the person you’re dating thinks of you, so you don’t bother to use a filter.

You say things without bothering to imagine how the other would take it.

It’s almost as if you’re trying to find a reason to get this person heated up, to maybe even get him or her to be the one to break things off.

At this point, you don’t care if things end — as long as you’re not the one to end them. No one wants to be the one to break things off.


You stress over all the arguments you’ve been having.

They are quickly becoming more and more frequent. The worst part, however, is you don’t give enough of a sh*t to even bother with them. Half the time you don’t answer or just plain walk out of the room.

You may be a bit confused emotionally, as sometimes the wrong person is still a great person. You may not even be certain as to why you don’t believe you two will spend your lives together.

Love isn’t exactly logical and sometimes we don’t know why we feel the way we do. Unfortunately, this doesn’t help smoothen the arguments.


You come up with creative excuses as to why you’re too busy to hang out.

You have to work late. You have to go see your parents. Your friend is sick. You’re sick. Your car isn’t working. You have to be up early to run some errands or go to a meeting. You wish you could hang out, but you’re “just too busy.”

When you’re dating someone you know you’re not going to marry, truth and honesty aren’t part of the equation.

You’re already saying you’re interested in the possibility of being together forever, while you very well know that isn’t true. What’s another lie going to hurt?



The whole thing either becomes incredibly awkward or simply blows up in your face.

When you date someone you know you’re not going to marry, you know things will end — and most likely end poorly. Relationships are often one-sided. One of the two is actually invested in the relationship while the other doesn’t take it the least bit seriously.

There will likely be drama. Things will be said. Things may even be thrown. Or things could just be plain uncomfortable. Of course, you see this coming so you get the added bonus of worrying about this until the day comes.


You deal with the emotional aftermath.

Serious relationship or not, spending a good portion of your time with another person, in a romantic fashion, is very different from being single — and often we don’t expect it to hit us the way it does.

Even if you are happy things ended and maybe even happy with all that the relationship has taught you, the inevitable realization will dawn on you: you are once again alone. You once again have no one to call your own, and what’s worse, you have no idea how to actually find someone worth having.

No one knows, but dating the wrong person for a while allowed you to ignore the fact. Now it’s staring you in the face

Here is the verdict,  you  may date  her for ot happiness fun and good times,  but  commiting to someone you ain’t gonna marry has its consequences and either or both of you are gonna suffer.

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